MISSED OPPORTUNITY

More often in our lives, there is a difference or conflict between what we feel and what we desire to feel. The conflict can either motivate you to work hard towards what you desire to feel or to act in a way that will completely deny you the luxary of feeling what you desire. This conflict usually happens without you actively allowing it to happen, but it does anyway, one way or the other. In some cases, this desire could be the need for honor, for promotion, for a bonus,  for love and affection and many other things. This desire can be a source of courage or evil plots.

Missed opportunity 

When Cathy, provisional clerk and personal assistant at a small accounting firm in Polokwane started feeling like her boss doesn't pay attention to her most of the time, she started acting strange. She felt like her boss never listens to her suggestions, disregards her presence and sometimes does not even notice that she is in the office.

On day, Joey, her boss, was late for a meeting and she asked Cathy to preper the meeting documents quickly. Cathy felt this was her opportunity to make her presense felt and to get the attention that she has been yearning for. She quickly prepared the document and put them in perfect order as instructed. Then loaded them in white, company branded box. When Joey was about to leave, she asked Cathy to Cary the box and accompany her to the meeting. It was the first time that Cathy had to attend one of Joey's what you call "top class" meetings. 

Cathy carried a white box, with eight files in it. On arrival at the meeting, Cathy was instructed to lay out the documents on the table on each of the available seats. Her heart started racing, blood pressure increased and her sweat glands worked overtime. Within seconds, she asked to rush to the ladies room to dry the river that was suddenly over flooding from her armpits and bladder overload. 

Upon, her return, Joey said to her clients, "I have asked Cathy to prepare this documents, so I will ask her to present them to you." She turned towards Cathy with a lovely, confident smile and said "Cathy, this is your moment, humor me".

Within an instant, all secretory glands in her mouth stoped working. Her mouth went completely dry, eyes turned red and there was an uncontrollable fellowship between her knees. The fingers gave up holding the glass of water that was in her hands. The glass missed her dress and rolled on the table... anxiety and regret started flooding her emotions. SHE HAD INTANTIONALLY SWAPED FILES to get back spitefuly at her boss. The files that she carried are not the ones that should be in this meeting. She did not know that she will be the one presenting the documents.

Sowing seeds of goodness

We often play games that we think will get us what we want. We play with people's emotions with the hope to get their attention so that they can give us the feeling that we long for in return. 

When our hearts long for love, instead of withholding love, give love. Have you ever heard the saying: "if you want something so bad, give it away and you will get it in abundance?". If you need help, offer a helping hand. The universe is designed in such a way that people get what they give more often and they get it in abundance.

Spilled milk

Cathy lemented that day.

The meeting was cancelled. Joey lost the business deal because the client felt she did not take them seriously. Cathy lost her job. Even though Joey is still going strong with her business, Cathy, on her quest for attention from what she assumed was her "devil" boss, subotaged herself and lost her opportunity to make a name for herself and lost her job. Joey lost a business deal, but to avoid this happening again, she also eliminated the one person whom she thought was responsible for her failure. She now have a new assistant who pays attention to details and helps her prepare and make presentations of business proposals to other clients. Cathy is home feeling more rejected and lost.

What was supposed to have been a stepping ladder for Cathy, became her worst down fall route. Be careful not to make the same mistake.